Katie asked:


This will be my first yr. without being around my immediate family, mother, brothers and sisters. I can handle that part, my mom stopped Celebrating Thanksgiving & Christmas at her house over 10 years ago.

But I have been making Thanksgiving dinner and Christmas at my home with my newly grown family. My children, their husbands and wives and my grandchildren.
I love the holidays and always go “All out”. I’m oposite of my mom, she gets depressed, i come alive. I’ve done everything completly by myself not to mention the shopping and wrapping.

But this year is different. my kids said they didn’t want to see me. This was about 6 months ago. I had no idea it was that bad & they never said why. Been in natural menopause for over 5 yrs, & getting ready to start hormones & estrogene. Been depressed because of all the family problems. But they have not been angels either. My health suffers, any suggestions?
Thought about working a homeless shelter,but cant stand on my feet long. Help
Since my kids finally have a relationship with their dad, is when they both started acting real nasty toward me. It doesn’t matter why at this point because they weren’t adult enough to tell me why & yes I could have handled it. I can handle the truth over a lie or nothing.
I miss my grandchildren so much I told my daughter don’t do anything she will regret by withholding them from me. Her excuse on that one was she said I loved them more than I loved her. Not true just a diff. love & I have caught her in several lies & told her and yes that made her mad at me, but she’s trying to turn the tables on me at her expense of getting caught up in her lies. She knows how much I babysat & loved them but I told her they would be the ones to suffer if she did this. She has tapped this well dry (emotionally & financially) she knows I’m done. She & her family have been living w/her dad & half sis/bros. for these past 6 mths. I just dont want to sit here and cry alone all day.
What can I do?
Thanks for your answers but this one is for CSUCDART. You have no business in the family section. My question was not answered by you but don’t vent your own frustrations out here. I’ve read your Q&A’s and you are extremly rude and opinionated across the board How dare you give Chaplain Debby a thumbs down along w/ the rest? I am not bitter against my mother, I’ve loved doing the Holidays or did you miss that part? If you are reported more than once, I’m sure you are aware of YOUR consequences. There is no truth in what you say, you are clueless and should not be allowed in the Family section because like I said you are clueless.
Oh and I guess there is a reason, no one can email you back? What’s wrong you can dish it out but can’t take it? you are someone with some serious issues and I will be watching you, AND one more thing…I am not one of your “fans”.
you are a very bitter child who needs to grow up and stop responding to questions that strike a very bad nerve within yourself.